Discover the story of the song > This Isn’t Helping (feat Phoebe Bridgers) – The National

The song is about the protagonist's frustration with his partner, who always seems unfazed and unbothered, while he struggles to keep from crying. Despite their partner's attempts to reassure them, the protagonist feels like their lack of emotion is not helpful and only makes him feel worse. He wants his partner to understand his feelings, but she seems to only see things from her own perspective.